The Four Most Common Wedding Proposal Mistakes

Asking your partner the big question can be an intimidating prospect. After all, the proposal is just as much an event of its own as the actual wedding itself. That means you need careful planning, which includes knowing what you should and shouldn’t do in the process. These are the five biggest no-no’s you should avoid at all costs when proposing to the love of your life:

Not talking to his/her family

This is super important! Even if you’re planning on surprising him/her, having the chat with your future in-laws beforehand is a always great way of entering into the next phase of your relationship with the family. Doing this also increases the chance of them helping you out with the proposal, which makes it all the more special.

Not asking for help in planning – or planning at all

There’s a difference between making your proposal a surprise and simply proposing just because you think or feel like “the time is right”. True, you don’t want to sound like you’re giving a sales pitch when you’re asking your partner to spend the rest of his/her life with you, but careful planning also shows how much this means to you as well. Careful planning also means asking for a little help from one person who you can trust, whether it’s your best friend or a family member.

Not doing research when buying the ring

Engagement rings and wedding rings are two pieces of jewelry you want to spend a lot of time thinking over, and for good reason: they are two of the most important things your partner will be wearing all the time, and you want to make sure she loves them.

To start, try listening on her thoughts on her friends’ and celebrities’ rings to get a feel for what she wants. This will help you narrow down your window-shopping in terms of the gemstone, its cut, and her preferred metal. Keep in mind that while it can be a bit pricey, it doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg – there are many budget options for rings available if you look around.

Picking the wrong place for the occasion

While you don’t have to break the bank and make the whole thing really fancy, this is still a big moment – make it all about him/herr. Take your partner’s personality into account and try to find a setting that plays most into his/her comfort zone. And don’t forget the post-proposal celebration! Once he/she has finally said yes, be sure to share the news with the closest people in your lives, and sit back and prepare for the months of celebrating and planning for the biggest event: your wedding day.