Guide for Men: How to Understand Your Date


Women are usually perceived as the more complex sex, especially when it comes to communication. But when a man fully understands her language, communication becomes easy breezy. In order for effective communication to take place, men need to understand the way women talk. Listening and seeing the situation through her eyes can be a huge step for great conversations. Men do not always have to agree but should there be a point of view that needs to addressed, he should let her finish talking first. This guide can help men get an idea on how to communicate with women in the simplest and most doable way.


Be conversationally engaged

It is highly important for women to feel that the man they’re dating with is interested in their whole being, not just their looks. Unfortunately, this has been taken the wrong way by a lot of guys. There is nothing more terrible than having a date that feels like a job interview. A date is a perfect opportunity to know someone and being engaged during conversations is a way to let them know you are indeed interested. Other than asking questions, share your similar experiences, beliefs, opinions, doubts or whatever to keep the conversation going. It is about finding a common ground between you that might bring you close.

Moreover, do not try to impress women by your intellect or logical reasoning because it does not work 99% of the time. For example, trying to rationalize and argue why she should like someone or something is a turn off because it gives the impression that you do not acknowledge and understand where she is coming from. It communicates how you lack care about what she feels and thinks. She doesn’t like it—end of story. Instead, inject statements like “that makes sense” or “I understand.”

Answer to the best of your ability


Most men were trained to believe that one of the ways to show consideration and thoughtfulness is to ask women how they feel or what they want. This is true, but not all the time. There are instances when women, don’t know what they want until they’re given options. Most typical example would be the dining destination. If your lady asks you where you guys should eat, do not answer back with a question like, “Where do you want?” the truth is, if she really knew exactly where, then she’ll tell you. So, the best way to manage her question is to answer with suggestions. You can tell her you heard about a new restaurant in town, or a fast food chain you went to with friends. The key is to never give her a not well-thought answer.

Say the word “we”

Saying “we” or “us” instead of “me” gives women the feeling that you want them to be a part of your life. It gives a feeling of being valued and seen as a potential love interest—in short, it makes them feel good.

Never forget to appreciate

Compliments and appreciation for women never go out of style. Make sure to give genuine comments as fake ones are easy to tell and women have good instincts to begin with. Don’t just end with a praise, tell them WHY. This allows women to feel more attractive and interesting.