The 5 Faces of Stalkers

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Psychology and legal jurisdiction would agree that stalking is a frightening act that is inflicted to someone. Whether it is driven by mental illness, resentment, obsession or a combination, the outcome is always associated with pain and undue stress.


In some countries, taking actions against stalking cases have been a priority since it normally involves women. In Japan for example, according to their National Police Agency, reported stalking increased to 8.2% in the previous year which means an average of 60 women are being stalked on a daily basis. While in America, one out of 12 women and one out of 45 men were stalked in their lifetime.

Stalkers may have different motivations but according to experts they can be distinguished into five with unique behaviors and intentions:

Rejected Stalker

Generally, rejected stalking begins when there is a breakdown or end of a relationship. In most cases, it is in the context of romantic relationships where former sexual intimates or lovers are the target victims. However, close friends, co-workers or even family members can be targets of stalking. The common motivation of rejected stalkers is either to continue the relationship or seek revenge for the rejection.

In most cases, rejected stalkers appear to want the relationship back (in some cases, to maintain a certain degree of relationship with the victim) or when directly rejected again, they exhibit clear remorse for the victim.


Intimacy-seeking Stalker

From its name type, the perpetrator is seeking intimacy out of loneliness, lack of confidante or intense obsession. Most of the time, the victims are unaware of the stalker’s desire because they are usually strangers. The intimacy-seeking stalkers have created a delusional thinking that they are in a relationship but in reality, it is non-existent. This type of stalker is usually under severe mental disorder and the drive is the gratification of emotional connection and intimacy with the target.

 Incompetent Stalker

The targets of incompetent stalkers are similar to that of the intimacy-seeking stalkers, they usually hit on acquaintances or strangers but their difference is the motivation behind it. Unlike the latter, incompetent stalkers seek a short-term date or sexual satisfaction—in short, they are not after love or real relationship. Mostly, this stalker has autism or cognitive disorder which is why they are highly insensitive of the victim’s stress or reactions.

Resentful Stalker

This stalker is more dangerous than the previous mentioned types mainly because it is influenced with anger and revenge towards the victim. It arises when the perpetrator feels he has been humiliated, oppressed or mistreated by a particular person, group or organization. Moreover, resentful stalkers gain satisfaction when they have control and power over their victims which are drawn from their fear. Often times, resentful stalkers act and appear as the victim who is just trying to get back at those who mistreated him.

Predatory Stalker

Among all types, this one is the most dangerous. The perpetrator uses violence and control over the victim to attain a sense of power through someone’s helplessness. They do not necessarily seek romance or intimacy, but more on sexual gratification.