5 Signs You Are Emotionally Cheating on Your Partner


Even if you’re already in a stable relationship, you often find yourself thinking a little too much about another person – someone who’s a friend of a friend, a colleague or an ex you decided to be friends with. Although you have never slept or done anything beyond giving that person a tender hug, you still can’t help but wonder if there’s something beneath your regular exchange of text messages. If this is the case, then you might be engaging in an emotional affair. Here, we’ve listed down five clear signs that you might be stumbling into the emotional infidelity territory.


  1. You Suddenly Become Secretive

We all have the right to a private life. However, having things that your significant other happens to not know about is not the same with intentionally keeping things from him or her. Your beau should never feel that need to read through your text messages or spy on your social media interactions. But if you’re spending so much effort just to ensure that your partner doesn’t see any of your conversations, then that might be a problem. After all, you wouldn’t feel the need to be secretive if you didn’t feel that what you’re doing is actually wrong.

  1. You Fantasize About the Other Person

Having random fantasies about another person other than your partner is normal – it’s part of being human. But if you’re constantly fantasizing about the person – to the extent that it’s already interfering with your attraction towards your partner – then you might risking a serious damage on your relationship.

  1. You Compare Your Partner With That Person

You’ll notice the small flaws in your significant other (he’s shy around other people; he wears those jeans that you don’t like) and fixate on just how the other person is an excellent conversationalist with the best taste in pants. Sure, airing out any problem in your relationship is important, but if the other person becomes a barometer for how or what your partner should be, then it might be time to assess your inclination towards that other person.


  1. You Communicate With the Other Person a Lot

Of course you can’t expect your partner to fulfil each social need you have, and this is the reason why you have your family and friends whom you can talk to regularly. However, if you’re spending a significant amount of time chatting or texting one particular person than your closest friends, then you’d better sit down and think about why you’re actually spending so much time in that particular person.

  1. You Keep Both Persons in Different Spheres

Does the idea of hanging out with your partner and special friend at the same time make feel uncomfortable? Do you feel a vague sense of guilt? If so, then that’s a clear sign that you already crossed a line that you shouldn’t have.

Unlike physical cheating, emotional infidelity can be quite difficult to spot. But keeping these signs in mind will definitely help you assess your actions towards a particular person, thus keeping your relationship with your significant other from falling apart.